"Remove the sense of injury and the injury itself will disappear" - Marc Aurelius

 One of the greatest minds of Philosophy of ancient times - Marc Aurelius once said those words...

The funny thing about this is - that these words were coming from the mouth of the mightest person in the world that the human knew that time - he could have just execute everyone that cross him, banish those people (which for some was the punishment greater than death), and he choose not to.

Why - because his mind, his stoic approach was able to distance it from such actions, and for him no harm from saying words - even the grievest - that just was not his problem. He was on a stance that Injury/harm is just in the mind of person offended - the words can harm you only if you let them. 

Should we let words hurt us? We sometime allow - but this does not mean we should allow this to happen. 

I am trying to think outside of such boundaries - this is difficult and will not be possible all the time - but even if from time to time i am able to follow the words of MA than i am already a winner. 

We sometimes here words coming from the different people - even the ones closed to us - then we need to think if those words are really hurting us - or might it be - that they only hurt our pride, and this should be irrelevant. The pride is something that is uselless - this only brings us down, and is not helping at all.

"Whenever someone has done wrong by you, immediately consider what notion of good or evil they had in doing it. For when you see that, you’ll feel compassion, instead of astonishment or rage."

Journal Log 8th of October...

 The autumn is here - and i feel like autumn myself - everything is falling down, and is just murky and dark. 

I just struggle to survive day after day - not going into details, topics that i cannot control, but at the same time i know that this is the only way we can have at all any influence on the things arround us - so the question is how to involve oneself - should we at all interviene or let it go - let it slip. and just watch projects crumbling down around us. 

This seems to be the motif of my life at least last couple of years - when i am the one that is mostly pushing toward the order in the ocean of chaos... that is not the best situation... i should not be responsible for restoring order in the chaos of our situation... this will not end up well...

Work on the things you have influence on ...

 Stoic approach is to make sure we know how to divide things we should plan and focus working on. 

The main division line is based on "Control", "Influence". Specificaly to make sure we know what and how we can control and influence... Epikret implemented  three groups 

1. Complete Out of control

2. Complete in Control

3. Middle control 

We should be focused on no 2 & 3 - wherever we do not have a shred of control we should be able to let it go - as our efforts to put it under control are futile and would not bring us any good. In contrary it would only do us harm - as we would be frustrated with the zero outcome of our actions. 

Think about all the time & actions you took to work on something that is just not worth your time - sometimes it would be better to sleep during that time - as it would be more ... efficient/effective.

The initial thing is to make sure we know the difference and we are able to walk away from the fight - which we cannot win in the first place.

.... Let it go...