Work on the things you have influence on ...

 Stoic approach is to make sure we know how to divide things we should plan and focus working on. 

The main division line is based on "Control", "Influence". Specificaly to make sure we know what and how we can control and influence... Epikret implemented  three groups 

1. Complete Out of control

2. Complete in Control

3. Middle control 

We should be focused on no 2 & 3 - wherever we do not have a shred of control we should be able to let it go - as our efforts to put it under control are futile and would not bring us any good. In contrary it would only do us harm - as we would be frustrated with the zero outcome of our actions. 

Think about all the time & actions you took to work on something that is just not worth your time - sometimes it would be better to sleep during that time - as it would be more ... efficient/effective.

The initial thing is to make sure we know the difference and we are able to walk away from the fight - which we cannot win in the first place.

.... Let it go...

Stay the f...k away

 Staying away - is something the most difficult part - staying away from problems, topics that are not assigned to us - especially if we feel very strongly they should be assigned to us, or we at least should be in the loop.

This is the problme we sometimes do meet, encounter - face... how to make sure we do not care that we are being omited by pass, etc...

I know i should not care - but sometimes it is just hard. Will keep strugling. One time i am winning sometimes i am loosing (most of the time)

Life seems like a Sinusoid ...

 it seems that i cannot catch a break - any time something is going up - and turning positive - another thing is blowing in my face. 

It is also like no matter what i would do - the outcome would be the same.

And here is the golden rule - "do not give a shit"... patience and humility - is the way to go - finding something else to do outside of work - this is the way to go.

Just before my PTO - i had already started the positive WoW - adding trainings/language learning etc - and it worked fine. I was able to do something outside office hours - i was starting to feel positive change - but the hollidays have turned everything into shit - now i am just starting to get back - and i feel positive again - becasue it seems to work.

I again have hope!

... at last.... maybe it is going to be fine

 At last - today we received a good news - she finaly made it to the School that she wanted - maybe not as a first choice, but hey... that is why you can always dream big.

but to be honest i think she was less stressed than us - the atmosphere at home was a dissaster... seriously... my wife was totally freaking out - and she was showing everyone - here only me - that she is not happy about - everything... now it can be finaly over - but let's see... we have 6 hours journey ahead of us today - so we will see... 

but for now i am happy... and the vacation for me starts in a week ;-) - roadtrip!!

... Once every few weeks ...

 ... there is a good day - a day when even if you are not able to say - "everything is perfect" - you are almost there. You just have this feeling inside your head/mind - that it is just fine! they way it should be. Positive even about such a stupid thing like going to the store to get yourself a deo ;-) or something similar. 

It is not that from now on everything will be perfect - it is just the moment when even the very wrong things about work (mostly it is about work) are not going to spoil your day, nothing will. Even if this is not the most exciting day - you are not looking into anything magnificient - you are just looking into very very small thing - like this shop, like walking the dog, like... i would say have a beer but it might sounds a little like one step closer to AA meeting - which in fact it is very far.

Very small thing - like a walk 2-3-4 and more kilometers with someone to get an ice cream. Just something very small, just to be able to get some rest - and maybe not that poluted air. 

Today i am there - i feel ok. Strange thing maybe due to some conversations with my wife ;-) but maybe not ;-)

Fuck Fuck FUUUUUUUUCK

 zero ambitions, zero work, zero sweat... 
Einstein once said: "Genius is one percent inspiration, ninety-nine percent perspiration" 

My kids are only focusing onthe one percent - work - none, perspiraction... Cthuhlu protect us from hard work.... the problem is that they do not see any problem with that, and i am furious - as i cannot state my mind even in the premises of my own home... 

If i speak plainly i get the pushback from the whole family - only my dog is not pushing back - she is just fleeing ... i really hate this life... 

and i am afraid that nothing will change and i will keep supporting them all till i die... 

money wasted on additional tutorage... nothing - it is nothing... so why bother... 

no the approach is that kids needs to have life, fun, etc... yeah ok - let's talk in a while when they will be having fun on the street since they would not be able to support themselves...

Careful what you wish for

Why we should change anything, if the outcome of the change is clearly not going to bring anything that you would be happy about. 

even if for short period of time you would be the luckiest bastard in the world - at the end of the day - you will be wishing you have not change anything to start with. 

We always see - everything better on the other side - better life, better job, better money, better sex, better ... we do not see that what we are following might not be exactly what we want...

first of all - are you sure that the "better is really better" or is it just better because you do not have that - and you want that? If this is only something you want "just for the sake of wanting" then go buy yourself something - new game, new equipment, new... body even. this is going to be less disturbing than definate change... of the lifestyle (family even)

Be carefull what you wish for - cause you might just get it. 

Are we really sure we want something? this is not a game that you can make a "save" of current state - and if you do not like the change - revert to the moment you've started the change, and simple do not follow it. Sometimes i wish this could be different - but this would be too easy - and life is a game you play on "Immortal" level of difficulty ;-)... take it or leave it.